This photo was taken exactly 5 years ago today at Prospect Point – Stanley Park in Vancouver, 2 days before our wedding day. Just over a year before this moment, it was also where we decided to end our long-distance relationship and to finally get married.
I can look back at the last 5 years of marriage with humility. The road has definitely been bumpy at times and we couldn’t have done it alone. As the popular bible verse describes: “Love is patient and kind. It is not boastful, proud, nor self-seeking. Love is not easily angered and keeps no record of wrongs. Love protects, trusts, perseveres, rejects evil and rejoices with the truth. Love never fails.” Yes, love shouldn’t fail. But people fail because the love that is spoken here is not of a romantic notion but is of a selfless kind. Let’s be honest, human beings are not naturally selfless. I’ve succeeded and failed at this over and over again and especially in my young marriage. It took me awhile to be okay with failing because now I know I won’t ever stop trying.
My wife and I are standing as a family with our two children not only because of our own accord but because we have been loved by many through the years: parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, coworkers, and very dear friends. Many have been able to give us, even for a brief moment, a part of themselves to show us selflessness and self-giving. We will be forever grateful.
As a teenager, I dreamed of being married and being a father. By the grace of God, my prayers were answered. It was a very romantic idea then. It was a prospective life I had imagined for myself. I look back at this moment 5 years ago again with so much humility. We were merely each others’ prospect for a life together.